Lonliness fades in Vā

In a world that often teaches loneliness, separation, and hyper-individualism, it is easy to forget a deeper truth: we exist in relationship. Our lives are shaped by the spaces between us — the social, emotional, cultural, and spiritual ties that give us meaning.

For thousands of years, my Pacific people have understood this. We do not stand alone. We are held in the Vā — the relational space that binds us to each other, to our ancestors, to our environment, and to our purpose.

This understanding is not just cultural wisdom — it is a powerful lens for how we approach conflict. When we see ourselves as isolated individuals, reconciliation becomes a private task. But in the Vā, reconciliation is a collective effort. Conflict does not sit inside one person; it lives in the space between people. And so healing must also happen in that shared space.
The Vā teaches us that restoring the relationship is as important as resolving the issue.

“Loneliness fades in the Vā, where we learn that we are always held in relationship — to people, to emotions, to purpose. The space between us is never empty.”